Well, to start with, here are a few things to keep in mind as we go on.  

• Compassion for yourself must start with yourself. Sometimes the relationship you need to rescue is the one with yourself. Moving past a breakup is all about you, not anyone else. You have to be your own friend first.

• Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other. Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months...each little step is part of the process of healing your heart.

• What are your real intentions? Are you trying to move past the hurt or are you hoping to get back what you feel you've lost? You won't move on until you've truly accepted and acknowledge whatever situation is troubling you.

• We all have this groovy internal conversation with ourselves. Since they shape our outlook, be careful about the language you choose. Words like "nightmare, terrible, and horrible" don't accurately describe what you go through. When you use catastrophic terms, you're bound to spend time dwelling on the negative. Spend more time focusing on what you can do.  If , in fact, it was catastrophic as in the case of the attacks on 9/11, don't be afraid to speak about it and share your feelings.  

• You can't get over being hurt until you know you've been heard. Give yourself permission to express your anger, your sadness — whatever you may be experiencing. It's better to be angry with someone else than to blame yourself. Allow yourself to own your feelings.

• Don't get in a situation where you'll look back someday and feel humiliated or that you feel as if you've left something undone.  

• And Finally...
  Learn to trust again. Whenever you get involved in a situation where you might feel vulnerable, you know there's risk. Don't let a bad experience keep you from living your life to the fullest.